Dating in Dallas...or lack there of
Not even sure where to begin with this one….but simply put, dating in Dallas is hard. Since I have been here I have met some pretty good guys, but nothing has turned into anything serious. I have always said that my first boyfriend was back in college. Looking back that only lasted 3 maybe 4 months and it was long distance. So now I am striking that and saying that I have never been in a serious relationship.
I first started meeting guys from different apps like Grindr, Scruff, and Tinder back in college. Since Lubbock was limited, very limited, I would talk to guys from Dallas. There were some that I would have great conversations with and that got me excited for when I moved to Dallas. I figured I would get here and meet a guy right away. But with all the mess of actually moving here, that was the last thing on my mind. Also the fact that all the guys I talked to somehow vanished. I learned a quick lesson to not take apps too serious. Side note: I am down to one app! Yay me!
Some of the guys I've dated have actually become friends. Some we didn’t end things well and no longer talk. There have been times where it lasted a week and there have been times that we just stop talking.
What I have encountered is that some guys are really not looking for a relationship. I think some guys like the idea of having someone but not really committing to anything serious. More of a convenience factor.
There are times that I have asked the cliche question “Is it me?”. Some of the situations I can probably say yes..definitely. But others I can’t really explain why. I believe I did all the right things, took the appropriate steps and poof it is over. I don’t want to come off as oh poor me poor me. I know I have my flaws and things I can work on but, when can I catch a break?!? Ha, I feel like this should be a vague Facebook post.
On the flip side of that, there are some guys that might be interested, I just don’t feel the same. But I believe in every guy that has expressed interest I have told them, it’s me not you!
Totally kidding...I have been honest and let them know it wouldn’t go anywhere.
I am not perfect by any means. I know I have been that dick that has stopped talking to someone out of nowhere or completely blew off someone. But as time goes on and it happens to me, I am learning it is better to be upfront than not dealing with it at all.
As I continue to try this dating thing, I am definitely learning more. One thing is that timing is everything. We both have to be on the same page and you definitely can’t force something that isn’t there. So until I find that guy, I will keep trucking along. I am definitely optimistic that it will happen, but it definitely is a struggle.
So I ask...any tips? And what are your thoughts on dating?
